{"id":5089,"date":"2015-10-06T03:33:48","date_gmt":"2015-10-06T07:33:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/me-en.kaspersky.com\/blog\/?p=5089"},"modified":"2019-11-15T15:24:24","modified_gmt":"2019-11-15T11:24:24","slug":"tips-for-parents-1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/me-en.kaspersky.com\/blog\/tips-for-parents-1\/5089\/","title":{"rendered":"Tips for parents: Six things you need to STOP doing on social media sites"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>When I was growing up, my parents would often embarrass me in front of future ex-girlfriends as well as my friends by pulling out photo albums compiled of photos from my early childhood.<\/p>\n<p>In those days, candid pictures, weird faces and random acts of silliness were captured in all of their awkwardness. Preserved if you will for parents to share in a brag book or album in the privacy of their own homes.<\/p>\n<p>Fast forward to today. We live in an age where we are connected to the Web nearly every waking hour and our photos are instantly shared on the Internet on sites like Facebook and Instagram. The big photo albums of the past have transitioned to digital identities tied to user handles or profiles.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"500\" data-dnt=\"true\">\n<p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">when my parents say embarrassing things about me to my friends <a href=\"http:\/\/t.co\/JTGwHZb8CI\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">pic.twitter.com\/JTGwHZb8CI<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u2014 Ouat Reactions (@ouatreactions) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/ouatreactions\/status\/649025996553867264?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">September 30, 2015<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>As a social media professional (and dad) who spends a lot of time within social networks, I often sit mouth agape at how much cooler people make themselves online and also how we\u2019re setting up our children for torment later in their lives.<\/p>\n<p>At their core, social media sites have made it easy to share our lives, moments and memories with our intimate networks. The downside is that with sharing as easy as it is, we humans don\u2019t take that second to think about who we are really sharing with.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/Hannah__McGowan\/status\/647501437426135040?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">https:\/\/twitter.com\/Hannah__McGowan\/status\/647501437426135040?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw<\/a><\/p>\n<p>While embarrassing pictures could be used against us in limited groups, photos nowadays can be used against our kids down the line by anyone who falls within a set of your network\u2019s parameters.<\/p>\n<p>Sure we signed up for these services, but did our kids? As parents (as well as friends and relatives) we need to collectively look at what we\u2019re posting and stop posting things that can come back to haunt little Suzie or Jimmy decades down the road, especially these six things.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/willyhamm\/status\/291860235960860672?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">https:\/\/twitter.com\/willyhamm\/status\/291860235960860672?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw<\/a><\/p>\n<h3>1. Don\u2019t make your profile public<\/h3>\n<p>Raise your hand if you want that creepy guy down the street looking at pictures of your young daughter. I am pretty sure that there aren\u2019t many people raising their hands right now.<\/p>\n<p>However if you have your Facebook or Instagram profile set as public, you are inviting everyone with an Internet connection to look through your pictures. It is not only stupid to have your profile set up like this, but also quite reckless.<\/p>\n<p>Everyone is entitled to their own levels of privacy while using social networks. You should set your privacy to only offer access to those that you are really connected to. You can also change the privacy on a post by post level as well as what people can see and you should take extra care when it comes to your kids.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"500\" data-dnt=\"true\">\n<p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">So glad my teachers\/parents didn't have social media to post the embarrassing stuff I did growing up.<\/p>\n<p>\u2014 Sean McNally (@MacOnTheRadio) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/MacOnTheRadio\/status\/650995009630683137?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">October 5, 2015<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<h3>2. Don\u2019t share other people\u2019s kids\u2019 photos<\/h3>\n<p>One of my biggest pet peeves when it comes to people sharing photos is when they take group shots and share them on social media sites. Parents have the right to know who can view and comment on pictures of their children. If they want to keep them off of social networks (as many of my co-workers do), it is their right as the parents \u2013 not yours.<\/p>\n<p>Personally, it really bothers me when I see family members post a picture of my kids and someone I don\u2019t know comments. In all honesty \u2013 I don\u2019t know you, why are you commenting on a picture of my kid? I have had talks with family members and posted nasty comments to people posting who said something that I deemed out of line.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"500\" data-dnt=\"true\">\n<p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">I don't go on Facebook much anymore, share photos of my cute kids.<br> People post some weird heavy shit on there.  I like to keep it light.<\/p>\n<p>\u2014 boomcheermix! (@boomcheermix) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/boomcheermix\/status\/580564140349067264?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">March 25, 2015<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>We live in a weird world; you can never fully know everyone\u2019s intentions or personal situations. Do you want to be the person who tips off an abusive parent as to where their estranged family is hiding from them?<\/p>\n<h3>3. Don\u2019t create a profile for your kid<\/h3>\n<p>There is a woman who I actually had to unfriend on Facebook. The reason being was that she created a profile for her child on Facebook and incessantly tagged them in every post. There is a reason that you need to be over the age of X to set up a profile on the world\u2019s biggest social network.<\/p>\n<p>https:\/\/twitter.com\/AlexisMG13\/status\/355842079194218498?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw<\/p>\n<p>Aside from the whole security thing, kids should decide if they want to open up their data to an advertising conglomerate.<\/p>\n<h3>4. Keep your kids\u2019 baths private<\/h3>\n<p>While your kids may do absolutely cute things while in the bathtub, it is something that should be kept private.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t want people seeing your parts that you deem private would you? I didn\u2019t think so.<\/p>\n<p>Just because they have mini-parts, it does not mean that you should have your kids nether-regions out there for the world to see.<\/p>\n<p>https:\/\/twitter.com\/FOX10NewsNow\/status\/634042766218018816?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw<\/p>\n<p>There are some really twisted people in the world who pay money to see photos like these. As responsible adults, we owe privacy to the children in our lives.<\/p>\n<h3>5. Don\u2019t Child Shame<\/h3>\n<p>A few years ago,\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.dogshaming.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\">dog shaming<\/a>\u00a0became a thing. People thought it was so funny and elicited so many Likes, Shares and Comments that some decided to\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.bbc.com\/news\/blogs-trending-33023129\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\">do the same to their kids.<\/a><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"500\" data-dnt=\"true\">\n<p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">What do you think of the whole <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/childshaming?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">#childshaming<\/a> trend? Yay or Nay? <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/parenting?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">#parenting<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/children?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">#children<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/discipline?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">#discipline<\/a> <a href=\"http:\/\/t.co\/Uq1e8GsaL8\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">pic.twitter.com\/Uq1e8GsaL8<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u2014 Help! We've Got Kids (@HelpWeveGotKids) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/HelpWeveGotKids\/status\/481098960937816065?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">June 23, 2014<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>As a way to publicly shame their kids for doing something wrong parents would take a picture of their kid holding a sign or a picture of the kid getting publicly disciplined. Some people laughed. Others commented. The poster got their social verification or Internet high five. Their kid had their indiscretion shared with people that they may never meet \u2013 so not sure shaming really occurred.<\/p>\n<p>No lesson was really taught.\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/wayman.gresham\/videos\/845152372206246\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">This guy\u2019s video<\/a>\u00a0went viral on the topic, but not for the reason that you\u2019d think.<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe class=\"youtube-player\" type=\"text\/html\" width=\"640\" height=\"390\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/wUaD0A-i_gA?version=3&amp;rel=1&amp;fs=1&amp;showsearch=0&amp;showinfo=1&amp;iv_load_policy=1&amp;wmode=transparent\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"true\"><\/iframe><\/span><\/p>\n<p>Pretty much sums it all up.<\/p>\n<h3>6. Bully Fodder<\/h3>\n<p>When I grew up in the 80\u2019s &amp; 90\u2019s there were bullies. Everyone knew who they were and for the most part tried to avoid them. Unfortunately as our society has moved many of our activities to the web, we have lost the humanity that would have given pause before saying certain things \u2013 horrible things. It feels like you can\u2019t go a week without reading about how online bullying led to a suicide.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"500\" data-dnt=\"true\">\n<p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">Family Says Even After Suicide From Bullying, Hurtful Messages Continue <a href=\"http:\/\/t.co\/mHb1aGcbyk\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">http:\/\/t.co\/mHb1aGcbyk<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u2014 CPT Jen French (@JenFrench319) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/JenFrench319\/status\/641454833887789056?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">September 9, 2015<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>Much like offline bullies from yesteryear, online bullies feed on fear and manipulation, however with online groupthink and\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Slacktivism\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\">slactivism<\/a>\u00a0can go hand in hand to make it a cool thing to make fun of or catfish little Jimmy from Holly Lane.<\/p>\n<p>A coworker let me in on anecdote that he had heard where an executive presented at their child\u2019s school and when they pulled up their computer there was an embarrassing photo of the child on their desktop background that made the classmates snicker.<\/p>\n<p>At that point, you can only imagine the realization that this goodwill presentation turned to anything else for their child. A classroom is at best 30 kids, but still stung.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-pullquote\"><p>Tips for parents: Six things you need to STOP doing on social media sites #parents #kids #internet<\/p><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/share?url=https%3A%2F%2Fkas.pr%2F2UVP&amp;text=Tips+for+parents%3A+Six+things+you+need+to+STOP+doing+on+social+media+sites+%23parents+%23kids+%23internet\" class=\"btn btn-twhite\" data-lang=\"en\" data-count=\"0\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">Tweet<\/a><\/blockquote>\n<p>As evolving humans, kids don\u2019t always make the best decisions. Should this picture have been online, the torment and embarrassment could have been much worse.<\/p>\n<p>Lesson from this executive is that you should not offer things that could embarrass your child in the future unless you can control your audience \u2013 much like your parents did \u2013 which you can\u2019t on the Internet.<\/p>\n<p>Everyone is entitled to the way that they want to rear their children. 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